October 20, 2010 To go or not to go..THAT is the question.

I wrote to Bob this morning and asked him on a scale of 1-10 how he is and he said a 2.  Of course this concerns me.  I explained that I or someone can come..he's had many offers for help/visits from several people ..including me... throughout this process.......my mom is VERY flexible changing her plans last minute  to come help us...we are blessed.......and he says not to come.

I totally understand a persons need to go "inward" and heal.  People react to illness differently.  I also  know how important it is to be an advocate for your  own health and your loved ones health. I don't want to overlook anything.    I'm not sure how clear his head is with all the meds he takes.

I'm uncertain about  what to do.  My mom is already on her way here...she'll be here soon... so I'm free to go.  The only hold up is him saying not to come.  I want to respect his wishes but as I said I don't want to miss a clue that all is not well even though he says all is well....

I have calls into Bob's doctor and also to his  nurse to ask their perception of  "his condition" at this point...I need another opinion that's not coming from the patient!   My thought is he's probably routinely on pain meds so I'm not sure how clear his thinking is although..... he IS  VERY stubborn.
Is  this stubborn talking, is it mind altering meds  or a person who just a wants/needs to be alone???  How do I know?

During the week we have limited communication over the computer/email.  That being said you can imagine it's hard for me to get a clear picture of how he is and what is happening there.

more later...hopefully I'll have  a better picture.